Heart to Heart Mediations

To coexist harmoniously in relationships, three fundamental requirements must be met - compatibility, understanding and love. Being compatible in key areas of life and seamlessly working together without much effort, friction or sacrifice evokes a sense of fulfillment and security in a relationship. Sometimes two people have the best of intentions, but by compromising they give up their own joy and happiness in favor of another. Such relationship cannot grow in love and becomes a source of suffering due to irreconcilable differences in lifestyle, values, needs, desires or goals. No matter how much love and understanding is present, whether two people are compatible or not will make or break the relationship. H2H Mediations will help expose any incompatibilities, reconcile the differences or find a solution that will satisfy all involved without the dreaded “compromise”. 

Mutual understanding is a crucial part of any relationship, perhaps being the most tricky. Each one of us consists of multiple personality aspects that become activated or suppressed in different scenarios. When conflict arises, when we are hurt or afraid, our protector parts take over, we get defensive, shift blame or shut down completely. In such moments we perceive the situation and the other person solely through lens of our wounding. Sometimes the emotions that arise are justified, at other times they are projected onto the other person, or we simply misunderstand each other, failing to recognize our own or another's hidden needs, fears and motivations. By learning emotional expression and becoming aware of the underlying wounding, behavioral patterns, triggers and unfulfilled needs, we come to fully understand and receive each other on the level of the heart. 

Love seems to be the obvious requirement for a healthy relationship and yet it may cause a lot of confusion or be one-sided. A relationship where our needs and desires are regularly dismissed, diminished or ignored is devoid of love. Conversely, it is not realistic to demand “unconditional love” where the other person is expected to keep loving us despite our destructive or abusive behavior. To put it simply, to love someone is to take them as part of ourselves. That means taking their best interest into consideration in everything that we say, plan or do. Their joy is our joy and our utmost priority, their pain is our pain and we cannot hurt them without hurting ourselves at the same time. During H2H Mediations you will develop a more mature perspective on love, being the powerful, unifying force, and how to create a harmonious relationship dynamic of giving and receiving love.